Stalkers and Talkers and Midnight Balkers
Shear craziness in the middle of finals for no other reason than no one else has written anything here for some time. Do you people really think I have time for this? I am after all a busy woman, with the entire city to enthrall me and a stack of books and papers to go through. I’m slightly foul of temper too as fifty-percent, if not more, of the people I speak to at other colleges are out……………the rest will be out by Tuesday and I am stuck until Thursday. What is that about anyway?
I believe that it is best for me to take a stand on what is often perceived as internet stalking. It matters not that the invasion of privacy that occurs in these cases may be just that and not a physical threat. What matters is the perception there of.
In other words, when you read someone’s blog and decide to find out other information about that person, even if it is “just for the sake of curiosity” you become a creepy stalker. Indeed you may not be a “real” stalker but who is to know that for a fact.
In blog land you can be sure there are limits as to how far people want to go, how much information they want to divulge. You need to respect the unnatural boundaries, except what is given and expect no more.
It’s similar to a love affair…...it is just an affair; it is not a marriage. Enjoy what it gives you but do not try to take it further. It is not meant to be what it isn’t and it is selfish of you to try to take it to the place it was not meant to go.
I believe that it is best for me to take a stand on what is often perceived as internet stalking. It matters not that the invasion of privacy that occurs in these cases may be just that and not a physical threat. What matters is the perception there of.
In other words, when you read someone’s blog and decide to find out other information about that person, even if it is “just for the sake of curiosity” you become a creepy stalker. Indeed you may not be a “real” stalker but who is to know that for a fact.
In blog land you can be sure there are limits as to how far people want to go, how much information they want to divulge. You need to respect the unnatural boundaries, except what is given and expect no more.
It’s similar to a love affair…...it is just an affair; it is not a marriage. Enjoy what it gives you but do not try to take it further. It is not meant to be what it isn’t and it is selfish of you to try to take it to the place it was not meant to go.
That is one of the only clear and logical points I have heard about stalking. That's intersting because ususally I am only left confused by your posts Alice-thanks for being so clear and to the point this time. I honestly appreciate your insight.
Posted by
Clockworkchris |
12/17/2005 8:02 PM
I sometimes with my blog how the osmeone would feel if they came across their photo there. Many of the pictures were probably unintentionally shared. I use kazaa-lite and see often people sharing word files, personal stuff, that they couldn't have intended to. Sometimes I send a message warning them, but sometimes the messages don't go through. Then I try to stalk out an e-mail address to warn them that way.
I'd been toying with the idea for something like my blog for almost a year before, but hesitated for the reasons I just mentioned. Then I saw that site 10eastern.com with their found photos gallery, which had been enthusiastically received, and written up in the New York Times, etc. Still, it is a gray area.
Posted by
Indeterminacy |
1/19/2006 12:19 AM